From Swimming in Shame to Flying in Sunshine

I bet the phrase I say the second most to my wife Lisa, after “I love you”, is “I’m sorry”. And while that means I make a good number of mistakes, I think it’s great, as it also means I’m seeing, owning, learning, and growing from said missteps. Just the other day, for instance, my heart was broken because my unthinking and passive aggressive words sent her into a bit of a shame storm. 🥺 That said, the “hole” this briefly tore into our relationship was also the space through which more light entered and filled it! 🤩 And isn’t that the pattern? First the falling, then the rising. Isn’t that why we love underdog stories? I have a hunch this universal cycle of loss (or death), followed by blessing (or new life) is at least part of what Jesus was getting at when he said you have to lose your life to find it, and be born again to live in heaven on earth.

While my initial impulse is usually to beat myself up when I make mistakes, a simple shift in perspective is all it takes to switch from swimming in shame to flying in sunshine: Deciding to embrace mistakes, with a smile, as fertile soil primed for growing us in goodness! Easier said than done for sure, but totally doable. How have you seen this pattern play out in your life? How might it bless you to view missteps as learning opportunities?


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MUCH Love and Many Hugs,


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