Love First … and Ask Questions Later

I did a 9/11 Reflection ride on the Peloton the other day—and amidst the many tears—two lessons from that time, which speak to today’s hurt and polarization, came to me: BE WITH and BE IN. To be with is when, no matter one’s religion, race, politics, gender, sexuality, etc., we 100% have each other’s backs. To be in is … Continue reading Love First … and Ask Questions Later

Letting Go to Letting Love In

This year, a major theme in my life has been: Letting go to let Love in. Turns out, there were things I was clinging to or striving for, which were “unplugging” me from life-giving love—filling me with insecurity, worry, stress, and anxiety. Deciding, in varying ways, to “let go”, has not only been massively freeing, it’s filled me with … Continue reading Letting Go to Letting Love In

Putting the “Well” in Our Mental Wellness

Sometimes things are not as they look. Granted, many sunsets from our street are beautiful (like this one), there’s also a lot going on "beneath the surface". Mud, dirt, pollution, predators, prey, death, and so on lie out of view. I point this out because, while the story isn't ours to share, mental health recently punched … Continue reading Putting the “Well” in Our Mental Wellness

Kindness Kickstarter

For years I was distant and disconnected from my family, and myself. Yet, my mom and sister kept pursuing me with kindness—truly wondering how I was doing, caring for me in my hurts, and wholeheartedly desiring the best for me. Kindness, it turns out, was not only the key to unlocking my once frozen heart, but … Continue reading Kindness Kickstarter

The Practice of Letting Go

One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go

Our Darkest Dark Reveals Our Brightest Light

Darkness. What’s your relationship with it? As we approach the literal darkest day of the year, I’m reminded going fully INTO my metaphorical darkness is the path to my brightest lightness. It’s no mistake that Christmas, a celebration of Light, was originally on the winter solstice. It took truly facing the depths of my porn addiction, for … Continue reading Our Darkest Dark Reveals Our Brightest Light

Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

Today is my 12th rebirth day; as on 11/10/08 I should have died after a nightmarish chain of events led to me plummeting 30 feet off a cliff, headfirst onto a boulder. While I'm always hesitant to share this, "don't be boastful" says a voice in my head, I decided to anyway. 🙂 Aside from "12" … Continue reading Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

My Journey from Violence & Death to Peace & Life

Growing up I was fascinated with wargames, and I’d spend hours with friends play-pretending to be soldiers. As a boy whose dad was in the army, this was normal. YET, the thought of actual war and death totally terrified me—haunting my dreams and keeping me up at night. “Interestingly”, somewhere along the way my horror … Continue reading My Journey from Violence & Death to Peace & Life

I Wrote a Book that Got Published!

Hi Friends! I wrote a book, an actual publisher published it, and now it's available everywhere! Words can't describe how excited and I am!!! 🥳🤸🏻‍♀️💫💙🤗  I'm also a bit dumbfounded, as in "am I dreaming? Is this real?", but mostly STOKED. It's titled Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community. Back on November 10, 2008 … Continue reading I Wrote a Book that Got Published!

Freedom, Celebration, and Unity: The Meaning of the Cross

What does the cross and Easter mean to you?  There are SO many theories and such a variety of beliefs, it's almost as if the cross's impact is too poignant and powerful for words!  In this year of seeing things clearly (2020), I'm choosing to meditate on and be enlivened by three main meanings Jesus gave it, … Continue reading Freedom, Celebration, and Unity: The Meaning of the Cross