Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

I should have died 10.5 years ago when I was 33.  Yet, as traumatic as this unreal experience was (the above pic of me in the ICU was 47 days AFTER my accident), I can honestly say it was an incredible gift. You see, it keeps death before my eyes, which, crazy as it might sound, … Continue reading Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

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The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Many of the people I know who are most ALIVE and JOYOUS are those who’ve lost the most.  For instance, by the time she was 4, my 14 year-old daughter’s parents had divorced, her dad had been in the hospital for 6 months after he should have died, she’d moved across the country, and her … Continue reading The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Our stories contain endless depths to explore and lessons to learn.  For instance, I just realized a powerful new life lesson from two of the worst moments in my life. I distinctly remember sitting on a plane 13 years ago and experiencing by far the worst turbulence I’ve ever felt (and I’ve flown several hundred … Continue reading The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Love Lacks Labels

There are moments when I see the essence of my wife Lisa.  The radiance of her being is so beautiful even the best poetry would fall short of capturing her. Likewise, there are instances when the lines between us blur, blend, and vanish.  Our connection is so rich I can't tell where "I" stop and … Continue reading Love Lacks Labels

The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

What if death, whether it’s losing a job/relationship or being put in a casket, wasn’t a badthing?  What if we chose to view and talk about death in a positive way?  What if we saw death as natural and part of life?  What if it we thought of it more as a transition?  I don’t … Continue reading The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

In my journey of personal growth and development I’ve found perhaps the most important movement toward transformation/enlightenment/salvation is awareness.  Becoming truly aware, with “eyes wide open”, of the past trauma(s) trapping us, the cultural messages enslaving us, our internal narratives keeping us stuck, and so on, is crucial because more often than not we simply … Continue reading How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

Side Effects May Include Big Bliss, Gigantic Gratitude, & Profound Peace

My wife and I have this dance we do.  Generally speaking, she cooks on the weekends and I do on weeknights, Lisa takes our dog Biscuits out in the morning and I handle the rest, I do the laundry and she cleans the floors, and so on.  While our dance moves shift when the music … Continue reading Side Effects May Include Big Bliss, Gigantic Gratitude, & Profound Peace

“Scars” are Beautiful: We are Wounded & Resurrected at the Same Time

If scars were championships, I’d have Michael Jordan and Tom Brady beat!  I’ve got the trach dent, a crooked eye, a bunch of marks from tubes to drain infected lungs, multiple stomach tube scars, a wrist with scaffolding, and all sorts of “interesting” stories on my face.  And those are just my PHYSICAL scars!  I … Continue reading “Scars” are Beautiful: We are Wounded & Resurrected at the Same Time

Love Doesn’t Ask You to Change, It Changes You

I wonder if you can relate with this?  When I was younger I was told, and believed, while we’re supposed to spread love and kindness, we’re inherently broken and bad.  Grace meant against “His” better judgment, God turned a blind eye to my faults and reluctantly decided to love me anyway.  We truly become our … Continue reading Love Doesn’t Ask You to Change, It Changes You

The Beloved One (A Poem to You)

The Beloved One sees you fully, loving every bit of your being. The Blissful One adores you always, regarding you with infinite fondness. The Blessed One delights deeply, in YOU, living your daily, "mundane" life. The Beautiful One celebrates you extravagantly, roaring approval because you ARE a champion. The Bountiful One hugs you fiercely, for … Continue reading The Beloved One (A Poem to You)