“We” is the Key

Don't work hard so others see and applaud you, bust your butt to see and care for others. For over a month, I've been doing my best to get an online yoga teaching "studio" going with no success. Oddly, though, I haven't been all that troubled. I say "oddly" because in years past I would have … Continue reading “We” is the Key

Unwrapping the Gift of You

The other day, Lisa told me: "One lifetime with you isn't enough." 🥰 That might be the most loving thing anyone has told me! I share that, not only to celebrate our love and partnership, but also because I think it points to a life truth: YOU are an endlessly knowable, magical, miracle of amazingness. Words, titles, societal pressures, labels, … Continue reading Unwrapping the Gift of You

Gardening Our Minds for Goodness

While the types of seeds, nutrients, and protections we put in a garden determine the fruits, veggies, and flowers it will grow; the thoughts, mentalities, and beliefs we cultivate in our minds shape who we become. For instance, while decades of valuing winning made me quite competitive, sometimes in unkind ways, years of championing unity is making … Continue reading Gardening Our Minds for Goodness

The Power of the Pause

Love resides in the pause. What I mean by that is while my first words, or reaction, to something I disagree with, don't like, or feel pressure or opposition from are generally not helpful or are unkind: Pausing, breathing, and giving my thoughts time to settle, creates space for love to move in. Can you relate? In many … Continue reading The Power of the Pause

Transforming Hurtful/Hard Words Into Helpful Ones

What do you do with hurtful or hard words from others? While part of me likes to ruminate on them, defend myself, and/or formulate comebacks that will "show them", my real self knows there's a better way: Reframing. Beginning with the awareness that love is the point, and life is a laboratory for learning to love well, … Continue reading Transforming Hurtful/Hard Words Into Helpful Ones

GMa’s Gift of Inspiration

My grandma Pearlette, lovingly called "GMa", turned 90 this month. Which means she grew up during the Great Depression and WWII. It blows my mind how much she had to do to get a good education and establish herself in the world! What is more, when my dad was in elementary school, her husband was … Continue reading GMa’s Gift of Inspiration

Trust the Goodness

"I wish I had a relationship like that." In our nearly 5 years together, people have said some form of that to Lisa and I more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. While I don't believe in formulas when it comes to relationships, I would also say: Trust the goodness. Trusting a partner, … Continue reading Trust the Goodness

The Practice of Letting Go

One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go

Life is Like Kayaking, Enjoy the Journey

With a wink and a smile, I offer this: Life is like kayaking, enjoy the journey. Why? Glad you asked! 😉 On a glorious spring morning, my wife and I paddled out onto the Hood Canal. As the sun smiled on us, we could see the Olympic mountains peering down on mirrorlike waters. With peace hanging in … Continue reading Life is Like Kayaking, Enjoy the Journey

Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love

I've been feeling unusually stressed lately. In exploring "why", two root causes revealed themselves. With several literal stacks of books to read for my doctorate project, looming papers to write, trying/struggling to teach more yoga, wanting to plan in-person events for my book (once we're allowed again), and more, future tripping is a prime culprit. When … Continue reading Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love