Trust the Goodness

"I wish I had a relationship like that." In our nearly 5 years together, people have said some form of that to Lisa and I more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. While I don't believe in formulas when it comes to relationships, I would also say: Trust the goodness. Trusting a partner, … Continue reading Trust the Goodness

The Practice of Letting Go

One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go

Life is Like Kayaking, Enjoy the Journey

With a wink and a smile, I offer this: Life is like kayaking, enjoy the journey. Why? Glad you asked! 😉 On a glorious spring morning, my wife and I paddled out onto the Hood Canal. As the sun smiled on us, we could see the Olympic mountains peering down on mirrorlike waters. With peace hanging in … Continue reading Life is Like Kayaking, Enjoy the Journey

Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love

I've been feeling unusually stressed lately. In exploring "why", two root causes revealed themselves. With several literal stacks of books to read for my doctorate project, looming papers to write, trying/struggling to teach more yoga, wanting to plan in-person events for my book (once we're allowed again), and more, future tripping is a prime culprit. When … Continue reading Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love

Balance Brings Bliss

How do we measure success? How do we find it? Are those different? For instance, it's been 7+ months since my memoir, Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community, came out. Thus far, we've made ~3% of what we spent to self-publish it back. That's a big financial failure by any measuring stick! YET, what … Continue reading Balance Brings Bliss

Awe Makes Awesome

I take our dog Biscuits out about 20 times a week, which is fine by me as I use the time to both enjoy fresh air and play Words with Friends. The other day though, a voice whispered, "don't play. Just be." So, with the cold wind blowing and rain falling steadily, that's what I … Continue reading Awe Makes Awesome

Be Emotional!

My wife was sharing her feelings with me the other day, when out of fear, instead of holding space for her, I shut her down. You see, part of me is afraid the messy, not so pleasant emotions will overwhelm me. Yet, I'm increasingly coming to find the healthiest thing to do is to feel, honor, … Continue reading Be Emotional!

To Live in Lovingkindness is to Live in Heaven

My favorite part about practicing and teaching yoga is it makes us better people. I say that because it helps us become more connected to ourselves and others, more aware of the effects of our words and deeds, and, thus, increasingly mindful of what we say and do. It's helped me realize: Who we are when … Continue reading To Live in Lovingkindness is to Live in Heaven

Hug Yourself from the Inside Out

Hug yourself from the inside out! I had a pouting, "woe is me" moment the other night. Do you have those too? In debriefing it later with my wife, I realized all I really wanted was a "hug", as in an embrace of myself exactly as I was. This was still on my mind while I took … Continue reading Hug Yourself from the Inside Out

The Power of “I Am ______” Statements

As the lucky inheritor of a bunch of grandkids (my wife has 8 from her life BL, Before Lang), I've noticed an interesting trend. When they say "I am _______", the blank is typically filled in by non-positive things. I point this out becauseour "I am" statements and thoughts strongly influence how we feel and … Continue reading The Power of “I Am ______” Statements