Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

I should have died 10.5 years ago when I was 33.  Yet, as traumatic as this unreal experience was (the above pic of me in the ICU was 47 days AFTER my accident), I can honestly say it was an incredible gift. You see, it keeps death before my eyes, which, crazy as it might sound, … Continue reading Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

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Meditation on the Importance of Loving Our Messy Emotions

Do you ever have a thought or impulse that's inappropriate, uncomfortable, or "bad"?  I know I do!  The other day, one thought bubble led to another, and before I knew it, I was shocked and dismayed by the notion my mind had centered on.  Before my inner shame police got too far into reading me … Continue reading Meditation on the Importance of Loving Our Messy Emotions

The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Many of the people I know who are most ALIVE and JOYOUS are those who’ve lost the most.  For instance, by the time she was 4, my 14 year-old daughter’s parents had divorced, her dad had been in the hospital for 6 months after he should have died, she’d moved across the country, and her … Continue reading The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Don’t just DO something, SIT There

I've been a runner for nearly 30 years.  And for as long as I can remember, I've measured my success by numbers, going far and fast.  As an enthusiast, my natural bias is to do ALL the things quickly.  That's why Lisa, Lara, and I's weekends generally get packed full of goodness.  Recently, though, Spirit … Continue reading Don’t just DO something, SIT There

The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Our stories contain endless depths to explore and lessons to learn.  For instance, I just realized a powerful new life lesson from two of the worst moments in my life. I distinctly remember sitting on a plane 13 years ago and experiencing by far the worst turbulence I’ve ever felt (and I’ve flown several hundred … Continue reading The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Love Lacks Labels

There are moments when I see the essence of my wife Lisa.  The radiance of her being is so beautiful even the best poetry would fall short of capturing her. Likewise, there are instances when the lines between us blur, blend, and vanish.  Our connection is so rich I can't tell where "I" stop and … Continue reading Love Lacks Labels

The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

What if death, whether it’s losing a job/relationship or being put in a casket, wasn’t a badthing?  What if we chose to view and talk about death in a positive way?  What if we saw death as natural and part of life?  What if it we thought of it more as a transition?  I don’t … Continue reading The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

Could I(You) Have Been Anyone Other Than Me(You)?

I once said "the music in heaven will be all Dave Matthews Band, all the time" ... at church ... to hundreds of people.  I mention that to express how much I LOVE the band.  Dave's music moves me so deeply I have a tattoo of his lyrics that speak a poignant Truth: "Could I have … Continue reading Could I(You) Have Been Anyone Other Than Me(You)?

How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

In my journey of personal growth and development I’ve found perhaps the most important movement toward transformation/enlightenment/salvation is awareness.  Becoming truly aware, with “eyes wide open”, of the past trauma(s) trapping us, the cultural messages enslaving us, our internal narratives keeping us stuck, and so on, is crucial because more often than not we simply … Continue reading How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

Side Effects May Include Big Bliss, Gigantic Gratitude, & Profound Peace

My wife and I have this dance we do.  Generally speaking, she cooks on the weekends and I do on weeknights, Lisa takes our dog Biscuits out in the morning and I handle the rest, I do the laundry and she cleans the floors, and so on.  While our dance moves shift when the music … Continue reading Side Effects May Include Big Bliss, Gigantic Gratitude, & Profound Peace