Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

I should have died 10.5 years ago when I was 33.  Yet, as traumatic as this unreal experience was (the above pic of me in the ICU was 47 days AFTER my accident), I can honestly say it was an incredible gift. You see, it keeps death before my eyes, which, crazy as it might sound, … Continue reading Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

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The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Many of the people I know who are most ALIVE and JOYOUS are those who’ve lost the most.  For instance, by the time she was 4, my 14 year-old daughter’s parents had divorced, her dad had been in the hospital for 6 months after he should have died, she’d moved across the country, and her … Continue reading The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Love Lacks Labels

There are moments when I see the essence of my wife Lisa.  The radiance of her being is so beautiful even the best poetry would fall short of capturing her. Likewise, there are instances when the lines between us blur, blend, and vanish.  Our connection is so rich I can't tell where "I" stop and … Continue reading Love Lacks Labels

The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

What if death, whether it’s losing a job/relationship or being put in a casket, wasn’t a badthing?  What if we chose to view and talk about death in a positive way?  What if we saw death as natural and part of life?  What if it we thought of it more as a transition?  I don’t … Continue reading The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

In my journey of personal growth and development I’ve found perhaps the most important movement toward transformation/enlightenment/salvation is awareness.  Becoming truly aware, with “eyes wide open”, of the past trauma(s) trapping us, the cultural messages enslaving us, our internal narratives keeping us stuck, and so on, is crucial because more often than not we simply … Continue reading How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1

Meditation on the Transformative Power of Loving All of Us Just as We Are

You know what helps me become less selfish and more giving?  My wife Lisa's love of my selfishness.  What I mean by this is Lisa loves ALL of me exactly as I am.  She accepts every single bit of me for no reason, which is what love does.  As a yoga teacher I end up … Continue reading Meditation on the Transformative Power of Loving All of Us Just as We Are

The Prison of Expectations: How Anticipating Less and Accepting/Appreciating More Brings Greater Bliss

I’m a planner, which is largely a good thing, but also is the source of much of my unhappiness.  The thing is, when I plan a day, an evening, a date, or whatever, it’s easy for my plans to turn into expectations, and when what I anticipate isn’t fulfilled I become sad, frustrated, and out … Continue reading The Prison of Expectations: How Anticipating Less and Accepting/Appreciating More Brings Greater Bliss

The Gospel of Snuggling

In the stillness and quiet of my first waking moments, I like to begin my day by listening to Spirit for a word or image to center my day on.  While it’s usually things like joy, curiosity, care, calm, and the like, the other day, much to my surprise it was SNUGGLE.  With a laugh … Continue reading The Gospel of Snuggling

Meditation on How Surrendering to What IS, Beautifully Transforms It/Us

When it comes to personal growth and transformation, I think these words are essential: SURRENDER, EVERYTHING BELONGS, LOVE IN WHOLES, and JUST BE.  Along those lines, Eckhart Tolle says: "Don't look for peace. Don't look for any other state than the one you are in now; otherwise you will set up inner conflict and unconscious resistance. … Continue reading Meditation on How Surrendering to What IS, Beautifully Transforms It/Us