If your profile had a relationship status (with yourself), what would you put? For most of my life, it was “complicated”. While I was addicted to porn (1998-2008), for instance, part of me despised myself. Likewise, during the evolution of my first divorce, I just didn’t want to be me. Following my second divorce in 2013, … Continue reading Just the Way You Are
The more I’m able to see me in you, and you in me, the better things get. It’s really that simple. While truth is many people are quite different from me, some with beliefs I vehemently disagree with—as near I can remember, when I adopt this loving and unifying perspective, it both works and leaves a … Continue reading The Perspective of Love
I did a 9/11 Reflection ride on the Peloton the other day—and amidst the many tears—two lessons from that time, which speak to today’s hurt and polarization, came to me: BE WITH and BE IN. To be with is when, no matter one’s religion, race, politics, gender, sexuality, etc., we 100% have each other’s backs. To be in is … Continue reading Love First … and Ask Questions Later
This year, a major theme in my life has been: Letting go to let Love in. Turns out, there were things I was clinging to or striving for, which were “unplugging” me from life-giving love—filling me with insecurity, worry, stress, and anxiety. Deciding, in varying ways, to “let go”, has not only been massively freeing, it’s filled me with … Continue reading Letting Go to Letting Love In
Not knowing the struggles we’d face in August; I named my yoga class this month “Kindness Warrior”. There’s something magical about moving through life’s struggles, storms, and even sweetness, with kindness. As fate would ironically have it, we’ve gotten to live this mentality “out loud”, as we’ve faced some major challenges and stressors! Yet, isn’t that how life … Continue reading Being a Warrior for Kindness
Welcome sadness, it will bless you. In the midst of a recent spin class on our Peloton, I broke down in tears. The instructor, Kendall Toole, invited us to welcome grief in, so I did. Soon enough, my waterworks began mixing with my sweat to form a healing “cocktail” on my face. What broke and blessed … Continue reading Welcoming and Listening to Sadness
Sometimes I’ll half-jokingly, with a straight face say, “I am Ironman.” Partly because after my nearly fatal hiking accident in 2008, the doctors had to use metal bits to put my head back together, and also because I’m a bit of a geek. 🙂 That said, I’d say in a real and powerful way: YOU are … Continue reading Mental Space Makes Room for Grace
We had the joy of watching 3 of Lisa’s grandkids recently. Since it was a beautiful day, we took them to a local park with a playground. While we were talking to another family at one end of the park, the 1.5-year-old started exploring the space. Keeping one eye on him (my good one, lol), … Continue reading Perspective is Everything
Stressed by "life", when I went to shower the other day, I saw the incredible Lisa had written me this love letter on our mirror! Her encouraging and uplifting words filled my heart with sunshine I was then able to share with others. What gets in the way of you being as kind and amazing … Continue reading Getting Our “Kinks” Out to Let Kindness Flow
Don't work hard so others see and applaud you, bust your butt to see and care for others. For over a month, I've been doing my best to get an online yoga teaching "studio" going with no success. Oddly, though, I haven't been all that troubled. I say "oddly" because in years past I would have … Continue reading “We” is the Key
Grace and Peace Yoga 