If your profile had a relationship status (with yourself), what would you put? For most of my life, it was “complicated”. While I was addicted to porn (1998-2008), for instance, part of me despised myself. Likewise, during the evolution of my first divorce, I just didn’t want to be me. Following my second divorce in 2013, … Continue reading Just the Way You Are
After lunch on workdays (I work largely from home), I clean the kitchen up from the night before and that day. I don't share this to brag (mostly 🤣), but to observe: Routines create freedom. By having rituals and rhythms to accomplish the mundane, nourish ourselves (body, mind, and spirit), and care for others, we free ourselves to enjoy … Continue reading Routines Create Freedom
I can't smell. At all! Wouldn't that be weird? The craziest part is, after my surreal and nearly fatal hiking accident in 2008, it took more than a year to realize I couldn't smell anymore. THAT, is how POWERFUL our brains are! I expected to smell the coffee aromas at Starbucks, the fresh spring smells … Continue reading Our Brain is like a Superhero(villain)’s Weapon, Let’s Use It for Good!
I've been a runner for nearly 30 years. And for as long as I can remember, I've measured my success by numbers, going far and fast. As an enthusiast, my natural bias is to do ALL the things quickly. That's why Lisa, Lara, and I's weekends generally get packed full of goodness. Recently, though, Spirit … Continue reading Don’t just DO something, SIT There
There are moments when I see the essence of my wife Lisa. The radiance of her being is so beautiful even the best poetry would fall short of capturing her. Likewise, there are instances when the lines between us blur, blend, and vanish. Our connection is so rich I can't tell where "I" stop and … Continue reading Love Lacks Labels
What if death, whether it’s losing a job/relationship or being put in a casket, wasn’t a badthing? What if we chose to view and talk about death in a positive way? What if we saw death as natural and part of life? What if it we thought of it more as a transition? I don’t … Continue reading The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2
I once said "the music in heaven will be all Dave Matthews Band, all the time" ... at church ... to hundreds of people. I mention that to express how much I LOVE the band. Dave's music moves me so deeply I have a tattoo of his lyrics that speak a poignant Truth: "Could I have … Continue reading Could I(You) Have Been Anyone Other Than Me(You)?
In my journey of personal growth and development I’ve found perhaps the most important movement toward transformation/enlightenment/salvation is awareness. Becoming truly aware, with “eyes wide open”, of the past trauma(s) trapping us, the cultural messages enslaving us, our internal narratives keeping us stuck, and so on, is crucial because more often than not we simply … Continue reading How the Way We “Approach” Death is Killing Us: Let’s Talk About Death Part 1
My wife and I have this dance we do. Generally speaking, she cooks on the weekends and I do on weeknights, Lisa takes our dog Biscuits out in the morning and I handle the rest, I do the laundry and she cleans the floors, and so on. While our dance moves shift when the music … Continue reading Side Effects May Include Big Bliss, Gigantic Gratitude, & Profound Peace
If scars were championships, I’d have Michael Jordan and Tom Brady beat! I’ve got the trach dent, a crooked eye, a bunch of marks from tubes to drain infected lungs, multiple stomach tube scars, a wrist with scaffolding, and all sorts of “interesting” stories on my face. And those are just my PHYSICAL scars! I … Continue reading “Scars” are Beautiful: We are Wounded & Resurrected at the Same Time