Love the Bridge That Got You Here

What do you do with regrets?  When my daughter was born I was on the other side of the world, deployed with the Air Force to the Middle East.  As I sat chatting with coworkers in the chow hall, our commander walked in and waived me over.  “Congratulations, Kermit,” he said, naming me by my … Continue reading Love the Bridge That Got You Here

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The Path to Awesomeness in Life is ALLSOMENESS

10 years later, I still sometimes get really frustrated I can't drive.  Or agitated the lack of peripheral vision preventing that, imagine missing 50% of your field of vision, also leads to knocking over and breaking things, hitting my head on walls as I turn, or painfully smacking a knee or toes on hard objects … Continue reading The Path to Awesomeness in Life is ALLSOMENESS

Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

I should have died 10.5 years ago when I was 33.  Yet, as traumatic as this unreal experience was (the above pic of me in the ICU was 47 days AFTER my accident), I can honestly say it was an incredible gift. You see, it keeps death before my eyes, which, crazy as it might sound, … Continue reading Why Keeping Death Always Before Your Eyes Makes Life Better: Let’s Talk About Death Part 5

The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

Many of the people I know who are most ALIVE and JOYOUS are those who’ve lost the most.  For instance, by the time she was 4, my 14 year-old daughter’s parents had divorced, her dad had been in the hospital for 6 months after he should have died, she’d moved across the country, and her … Continue reading The Freedom of Dying BEFORE You Die: Let’s Talk About Death Part 4

The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Our stories contain endless depths to explore and lessons to learn.  For instance, I just realized a powerful new life lesson from two of the worst moments in my life. I distinctly remember sitting on a plane 13 years ago and experiencing by far the worst turbulence I’ve ever felt (and I’ve flown several hundred … Continue reading The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

What if death, whether it’s losing a job/relationship or being put in a casket, wasn’t a badthing?  What if we chose to view and talk about death in a positive way?  What if we saw death as natural and part of life?  What if it we thought of it more as a transition?  I don’t … Continue reading The Life-Giving Power of Learning a Death Positive Approach: Let’s Talk About Death Part 2

Meditation on Changing Our Thinking to Better Our Being

I always run late, in that at best I'm on time, but typically I'm a couple minutes ... ish late.  That's just how I am ... or is it?  I certainly have a predisposition to pack in as much goodness as possible and am optimistic as to how long things will take, both of which … Continue reading Meditation on Changing Our Thinking to Better Our Being

You are Enough and Can Do Hard Things: How to Defeat the Resistance to Our Resolutions, Dreams, and Growth

Have you ever set a resolution, planned something wonderful, or decided to make a change for the better … only to be quickly doubted by inner/outer critics, have all sorts of distractions arise, be shamed at the first misstep, and/or be questioned for even trying?  I wrote a book and am ready to look for … Continue reading You are Enough and Can Do Hard Things: How to Defeat the Resistance to Our Resolutions, Dreams, and Growth

Every Day is a Gift, a Chance to Start Anew

Sometimes I feel haunted by my past.  I keep replaying the tapes of my struggles, weaknesses, and losses ... which, ironically, frequently dooms me to repeat them.  For example, after I got remarried again following my first divorce, when something Carla did reminded me of when my first marriage went south, I'd get a bit … Continue reading Every Day is a Gift, a Chance to Start Anew

HOW We Believe Trumps what We Believe: I’d Rather Be Wrong and Kind than Correct and Jerky

My wife and I had the most unexpected, eye-opening, and wonderful conversation with a wine tasting room manager the other day.  As wine club members, we visit this spot pretty frequently, so knew the lady by name. This time, at finding out I teach yoga she lit up and started sharing her spiritual journey with us.  … Continue reading HOW We Believe Trumps what We Believe: I’d Rather Be Wrong and Kind than Correct and Jerky