License to Love

You know how James Bond has a License to Kill? And, as the mask and vac debates reveal, it seems Americans have a License to Individual Freedom? What if, we all lived from a License to Love? Like, for reals! I know when people wrong my wife Lisa, by abusing her kindness (which happens A … Continue reading License to Love

The Little BIG Things Love Does

My friend Scott inspires me! While visiting said bestie in Colorado, as we were going into his house for the night, I saw Scott look back and linger to watch the garage door finish closing. Why? To make sure everything was safe and secure for his family. Love, I realized while observing him, does little things that … Continue reading The Little BIG Things Love Does

Love is Messy: Getting Uncomfortable to Get “Fit”

You know how we regularly struggle and sweat to get physically fit? Increasingly, it seems to me the same is true for relational “fitness” … and might even be a key to healing our political, racial, and other divides. In other words: Real love is messy. It embraces uncomfortableness by courageously choosing to vulnerably share our scary stuff, … Continue reading Love is Messy: Getting Uncomfortable to Get “Fit”

Flourishing Through Life’s Hardships

I was lost, lonely, empty, and confused for a stretch of time during, and after my second divorce. I didn’t know why she’d picked that path, and couldn’t make sense of it. Reflecting deeply on my part and how I could learn and grow from it, though, was what brought me back to “life”, so … Continue reading Flourishing Through Life’s Hardships

Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love

I've been feeling unusually stressed lately. In exploring "why", two root causes revealed themselves. With several literal stacks of books to read for my doctorate project, looming papers to write, trying/struggling to teach more yoga, wanting to plan in-person events for my book (once we're allowed again), and more, future tripping is a prime culprit. When … Continue reading Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love

From Frustrated to Fascinated: Healing Our Divides

#fascinated #curiosity #love #friendly #civildialogue #diversity #difference #understanding #healing #healingdivides #reconciliation #askwhy #tellmemore #kindness #lovealways #togetherness #unity #politics #selfstudy #yoga #personalgrowth #transformation #peace #wholeness #upwardspiral #kitsaphotyoga #sweetsantoshayoga #ashesyoga #blissology #blissarmy  Isn’t it incredible how differently we can see things? On day #3 of election purgatory, a popular blog I follow lamented how Biden as president … Continue reading From Frustrated to Fascinated: Healing Our Divides

Just Say No to Division, and YES to Unity

If anyone asked me for voting advice, I’d say vote humans not robots. Seriously! You know The Terminator, The Matrix, and other movies where the machines take over? Great entertainment, but scary reality, right? The bad news, though, is in many ways they clandestinely already have! Think about it: Why do the news and social media bombard us … Continue reading Just Say No to Division, and YES to Unity

We are Walking Rainbows

Craziness, it seems to me, is less when a person has conflicting beliefs, multiple personalities, and a diversity of inward attitudes and views—but more when we don’t realize, hate, or refuse to admit, that we do! I have a hunch, the famous line from Alice in Wonderland, "You're mad, bonkers, completely off your head. But … Continue reading We are Walking Rainbows

Exercising Kindness: My Favorite Workout

Kindness = Happiness. I don't think this mantra we have in Blissology could be more accurate overall, or more appropriate for the times we're in. The Gottman Institute is a group of relational experts led by a husband and wife who've devoted their lives to studying and sharing what makes or breaks relationships. While they say … Continue reading Exercising Kindness: My Favorite Workout

The Path to Wellbeing is Paved with Curiosity and Kindness

While my wife and I were watching TV, as I brought my glass of sparkling water to my lips, I spilled all over myself because it was fuller than I thought and I mistimed the approach. Doh! The worst part, though, is, I instantly grew defensive and reacted with a "someone else is to blame" words … Continue reading The Path to Wellbeing is Paved with Curiosity and Kindness