Do you ever have a thought or impulse that's inappropriate, uncomfortable, or "bad"? I know I do! The other day, one thought bubble led to another, and before I knew it, I was shocked and dismayed by the notion my mind had centered on. Before my inner shame police got too far into reading me … Continue reading Meditation on the Importance of Loving Our Messy Emotions
Changes, departures, leavings, and endings can be hard. For years, I was not only a faithful attender at a local church, I was on the leadership team, aspired to be a paid pastor there, and became close with the other team members. Then, after a good deal of inner wrestling and tender conversations, I knew … Continue reading Fierce Softness
I used to struggle A LOT with being defensive. I would refute or argue most feedback or critiques from people close to me. Likewise, if someone didn't agree with my take on things in beliefs, politics, sports, etc., instead of listening to their view and maybe letting my mind be changed, I'd double down on … Continue reading Meditation on Changing Our Minds By Developing Groovier Thinking Patterns
Even though it’s been five years and I’m incredibly happy, I’m still sometimes quite pissed at my second wife for divorcing me. In a righteous anger sort of way. After this year’s event marking the fiftieth anniversary of MLK Jr.’s death, an observer noted how “angry” some of the black speakers seemed in contrast to white presenters’ … Continue reading How Does “Anger” Belong When Love is the Point?
My Lord God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. … Continue reading Christmas Reveals Beauty/Heaven/Divinity Shine IN the Messy Realness and Complexity of Life: Grace Comes IN Our Darkest Hours
Realizing and living into this truth has changed my life in the most AMAZING ways ... and I bet it can for you too! You HAVE thoughts. You HAVE emotions. YOU are NOT your thoughts. YOU are NOT your emotions. "A thought is harmless unless we believe it." writes author on self-inquiry Byron Katie, "It's … Continue reading Meditation on the Importance of Remembering You are NOT Your Thoughts and Choosing Positivity
I talk pretty frequently about my dog, Biscuits. Not only do I love her and think she's adorable, I think we have A LOT to LEARN from her and our other four-legged friends. To tell you what I mean by that, let me tell you a bit about the Psalms. The Psalms is a book … Continue reading Meditation on the Importance of Expressing ALL Your Emotions