Being a Warrior for Kindness

Not knowing the struggles we’d face in August; I named my yoga class this month “Kindness Warrior”. There’s something magical about moving through life’s struggles, storms, and even sweetness, with kindness. As fate would ironically have it, we’ve gotten to live this mentality “out loud”, as we’ve faced some major challenges and stressors! Yet, isn’t that how life … Continue reading Being a Warrior for Kindness

The Good News of Realizing I’m My Worst Enemy

Recently I had a couple super hard conversations. Without going into details that aren’t mine to share, they were the kind that you know in advance could go super sideways. Know what I mean? Want to guess what the most stressful, angsty, and worst part of both was? The pre-conversation dread and fear of the … Continue reading The Good News of Realizing I’m My Worst Enemy

How a Log and Stranger Reminded Me Life is a Team Sport

This log, and a stranger, reminded me life is a team sport. Lisa and I were partway into a hike when we came to this stream. Skeptically, I gazed at it thinking: I don’t think I have the balance to walk across this without falling into the water and getting hurt. As I doubtfully looked … Continue reading How a Log and Stranger Reminded Me Life is a Team Sport

Love is Messy: Getting Uncomfortable to Get “Fit”

You know how we regularly struggle and sweat to get physically fit? Increasingly, it seems to me the same is true for relational “fitness” … and might even be a key to healing our political, racial, and other divides. In other words: Real love is messy. It embraces uncomfortableness by courageously choosing to vulnerably share our scary stuff, … Continue reading Love is Messy: Getting Uncomfortable to Get “Fit”

Flourishing Through Life’s Hardships

I was lost, lonely, empty, and confused for a stretch of time during, and after my second divorce. I didn’t know why she’d picked that path, and couldn’t make sense of it. Reflecting deeply on my part and how I could learn and grow from it, though, was what brought me back to “life”, so … Continue reading Flourishing Through Life’s Hardships

An Ode/Invitation to Grace

I feel SO blessed to be in a wonderful circle of friends who are family, and family who are friends! In reflecting on what makes them so amazing, the word that came to me is “Grace”. Grace is a gift, free of charge, that loves and celebrates you just as you are. Its typically tender hands … Continue reading An Ode/Invitation to Grace

Balance Brings Bliss

How do we measure success? How do we find it? Are those different? For instance, it's been 7+ months since my memoir, Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community, came out. Thus far, we've made ~3% of what we spent to self-publish it back. That's a big financial failure by any measuring stick! YET, what … Continue reading Balance Brings Bliss

Following Peace

For as long as I can remember I've been a hopeful romantic. When I played with my Star Wars or G.I. Joe figures, I would almost always pair my lead character with a girlfriend or wife. All my favorite fantasy or sci-fi books, movies, and shows featured true love of some sort. I've literally told my … Continue reading Following Peace

7 Bits of Brightness from 2020

As the sun sets on 2020, what bits of brightness will we carry with us? One of 7 revelations for me is: People I can be 100% completely myself with are more precious than gold/TP. How about you? It’s interesting, during my life, first I was all about New Year’s resolutions, then more intentions or … Continue reading 7 Bits of Brightness from 2020

Shalom: A Vision of Justice That Gives Life, Liberty, and Love

What is justice? Like real, life-giving, healing, and unity-building justice? Recently, "No justice, no peace" is one of the sayings going around in the peaceful demonstrations and posts. I don't know about you, but justice as punishment, finger-pointing, and shame (go to forms), has never helped me. Quite the opposite, actually. I think of my 15-year … Continue reading Shalom: A Vision of Justice That Gives Life, Liberty, and Love