License to Love

You know how James Bond has a License to Kill? And, as the mask and vac debates reveal, it seems Americans have a License to Individual Freedom? What if, we all lived from a License to Love? Like, for reals! I know when people wrong my wife Lisa, by abusing her kindness (which happens A … Continue reading License to Love

The Practice of Letting Go

One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go

Balance Brings Bliss

How do we measure success? How do we find it? Are those different? For instance, it's been 7+ months since my memoir, Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community, came out. Thus far, we've made ~3% of what we spent to self-publish it back. That's a big financial failure by any measuring stick! YET, what … Continue reading Balance Brings Bliss

Who am I Really? A Journey of Me to We to Everyone

The most devastating losses in my life (marital separation, divorce, nearly dying, loss of career, divorce #2 …) turned into my biggest gains. Each time I surrender, the more alive I become. The less I identify as “me”, the more truly me I am. As cryptic, woo-woo, and Jesus-like as those may sound, over and … Continue reading Who am I Really? A Journey of Me to We to Everyone

7 Bits of Brightness from 2020

As the sun sets on 2020, what bits of brightness will we carry with us? One of 7 revelations for me is: People I can be 100% completely myself with are more precious than gold/TP. How about you? It’s interesting, during my life, first I was all about New Year’s resolutions, then more intentions or … Continue reading 7 Bits of Brightness from 2020

Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

Today is my 12th rebirth day; as on 11/10/08 I should have died after a nightmarish chain of events led to me plummeting 30 feet off a cliff, headfirst onto a boulder. While I'm always hesitant to share this, "don't be boastful" says a voice in my head, I decided to anyway. 🙂 Aside from "12" … Continue reading Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

Dancing Standing Still

Words, titles, and labels cannot define you. YOU are SO much MORE than male, female, black, white, Democrat, Republican, or whatever else describes you! As Thomas Keating says in his poem "Stillness": Our true nature is stillness, The Source from which we come. ... All words disappear into It, And all creation awakens to the delight of Just Being. … Continue reading Dancing Standing Still

The Garden Gospel

Fires are raging in Northern California, with more than 14 THOUSAND firefighters on the scene! Republicans and Democrats are hurling fiery words at each other like toddlers do with food. The U.S. is aflame because of racial division and injustice. Doesn’t it sometimes feel like it’s all going up in flames? Since fires like these … Continue reading The Garden Gospel

Becoming Friends with Your Breath

When I don't know what to say or write, I'll take a deep breath to let my mind quiet and make space for a calmer and more subtle "voice". If things get stressful or I feel my anxiety rising, I've found letting loose a sigh, growl, or silly noise makes a world of difference. During moments … Continue reading Becoming Friends with Your Breath

Communion as the Point

I find the more I blur the lines of where I end and others, nature, and God (or Spirit if you prefer) begin, the better life gets. Along those lines, in a podcast I recently listened to, one of the speakers said something about "communion", both a powerful relational intimacy and a central Christian practice, that brought … Continue reading Communion as the Point