Just the Way You Are

If your profile had a relationship status (with yourself), what would you put? For most of my life, it was “complicated”. While I was addicted to porn (1998-2008), for instance, part of me despised myself. Likewise, during the evolution of my first divorce, I just didn’t want to be me. Following my second divorce in 2013, … Continue reading Just the Way You Are

Love Actually …

I believe: Love actually … Is the fundamental nature of reality. Believes the best. Is our native tongue. Bridges divides. Is messy. Speaks life. Never ends. Is the flow of the universe. Leads. Does little things that make big differences. Includes … beyond what/who we’d prefer. Stretches us. Empowers. Gives. Receives. Is playful. Lifts up. … Continue reading Love Actually …

Grieving the Life I Lost

13 years ago today, the amazing life I had ended. In the blink of an eye, a quite successful career flying for the air force (where I also got to teach the best of the best) vanished, as did the future plans and dreams of my then fiancée (now ex-wife) and I. While life doesn’t … Continue reading Grieving the Life I Lost

The Love Castle

I dig metaphors, and one that’s speaking to me lately is choosing to live in a Love Castle. It’s where our family’s life together is akin to a castle, one that only allows love in over its moat and through its gates. No love, no entry! To be clear, “love”, as I understand it, is the giving … Continue reading The Love Castle

License to Love

You know how James Bond has a License to Kill? And, as the mask and vac debates reveal, it seems Americans have a License to Individual Freedom? What if, we all lived from a License to Love? Like, for reals! I know when people wrong my wife Lisa, by abusing her kindness (which happens A … Continue reading License to Love

What We “See” is What We Become

The beauty of this scenery captivated me the other day … For years, I've walked past this bit of lush green loveliness, on my way to the yoga studio, without noticing it. It's tucked away a bit off the side of the highway, so isn't in your face (so to speak) but takes little effort … Continue reading What We “See” is What We Become

Routines Create Freedom

After lunch on workdays (I work largely from home), I clean the kitchen up from the night before and that day. I don't share this to brag (mostly 🤣), but to observe: Routines create freedom. By having rituals and rhythms to accomplish the mundane, nourish ourselves (body, mind, and spirit), and care for others, we free ourselves to enjoy … Continue reading Routines Create Freedom

The “Pose” Changes the Person

At perhaps the lowest point in my life, when I was feeling unloved, unlovable, and unloving, want to know the “odd” thing that made a BIG difference in flipping the script? Heart-openers! Poses in yoga that expand one’s heart-center, and hence one’s love. While that might seem woo-woo, the fabulous thing is studies are showing … Continue reading The “Pose” Changes the Person

Kindness Kickstarter

For years I was distant and disconnected from my family, and myself. Yet, my mom and sister kept pursuing me with kindness—truly wondering how I was doing, caring for me in my hurts, and wholeheartedly desiring the best for me. Kindness, it turns out, was not only the key to unlocking my once frozen heart, but … Continue reading Kindness Kickstarter

Transforming Pain into Gain

We all carry pain, the question is: What do we do with our pain? Growing up, my parents would disagree with style! And by “style”, I mean their arguments were explosive like the 4th of July. They were real doozies! This, plus the way differences between my dad and uncles also turned into fights, and how other family … Continue reading Transforming Pain into Gain