Love Al(l)ways

Life is a marvelously messy tapestry of threads formed by—not only—all the people, plants, animals, and rest of material reality; but also, by our thoughts, words, and deeds. Shaming, judgmentalism, holding oneself as “better than,” living from fear, cutting words, self-centeredness, an “us versus them” mentality, violence, defensiveness, seeking to “win,” and inner-criticism—for example—all tear … Continue reading Love Al(l)ways

Friendship & The Gift of Loyalty

Great friends, the kind you freely share the most blissful and brutal stuff with, are more precious than gold. Even while I walked through the desert of divorce twice, because of loyal friends, I considered myself lucky. Although I struggled to stay alive after my accident in 2008, and spent 6 months in hospitals recovering, … Continue reading Friendship & The Gift of Loyalty

A Solstice Blessing

On this Summer Solstice: May we remember, even when we can't see the Light, it is always shining on and through us. May the sun remind you, you are always and forever loved. Just as the infinite twinkle of the stars symbolizes your limitless worth; while the earth lets you know you are at home … Continue reading A Solstice Blessing

Love is Everything and Everywhere

I remember a skit from when I went to university in the '90s. I was in Campus Crusade for Christ (I even emceed our big meetings for a good while), and this play featured a silent Jesus following a college student everywhere they went--studying, partying, going to church, etc. The point, as I remember it, being: … Continue reading Love is Everything and Everywhere

The Power of Appreciation

A major reason Lisa and I have a delightful marriage and partnership is: Appreciation. Daily, we tell one another how much we appreciate each other. Not just in a general sense, but by naming specific things. And do you know what the real magical, meaningful way we do this is? Lisa tells me, on the … Continue reading The Power of Appreciation

Heaven, We Have a Problem

My heart is in knots. My eyes are faucets. My spirit is heavy, and soul shakes. Another school shooting? More mass shootings than days in the year so far? America, please stop killing children, as well as murdering or terrorizing SO many people who are “different” racially, religiously, mentally, sexually, financially, and so on. We need … Continue reading Heaven, We Have a Problem

Love/Live Like It’s Your Last Day

Cherish your people. Hug them deeply. Tell them “I love you”, as often as possible. I recently realized, ever since the day I should have died in 2008, that’s how I live. You never know when “this” time together, or goodbye, will be the last. What is more: Choosing to be fully with who and what is present … Continue reading Love/Live Like It’s Your Last Day

The Love Pause

What brings out the best in you? For me, it’s pausing. When I pause, breathe, ponder, and wonder, love fills and shines through the space that slowing down fosters within us. Looking back on my missteps; the common thread between when I say or do something hurtful, stupid, disrespectful, and/or unkind, is when I do not stop, and take … Continue reading The Love Pause

Our Deepest Truth

If I could say one thing to you, it’s this: YOU are Loved/Love. Now and forever, no matter what, you are deeply loved—more than words can express. And, when we peel away the mess and muck of life, I believe the deepest truth of each of us is love. We came from love, are made to … Continue reading Our Deepest Truth

Just the Way You Are

If your profile had a relationship status (with yourself), what would you put? For most of my life, it was “complicated”. While I was addicted to porn (1998-2008), for instance, part of me despised myself. Likewise, during the evolution of my first divorce, I just didn’t want to be me. Following my second divorce in 2013, … Continue reading Just the Way You Are