Seeing Our Blind-spots

The other day, my literal blind-spots got me thinking about the "blind-spots" we all have. While Lisa and I were out enjoying a nice, long walk on a beautiful summer day with our dog Biscuits, I heard somebody outside my field of view say something about a "nice doggy". Lacking any peripheral vision from a … Continue reading Seeing Our Blind-spots

The “Pose” Changes the Person

At perhaps the lowest point in my life, when I was feeling unloved, unlovable, and unloving, want to know the “odd” thing that made a BIG difference in flipping the script? Heart-openers! Poses in yoga that expand one’s heart-center, and hence one’s love. While that might seem woo-woo, the fabulous thing is studies are showing … Continue reading The “Pose” Changes the Person

Transforming Pain into Gain

We all carry pain, the question is: What do we do with our pain? Growing up, my parents would disagree with style! And by “style”, I mean their arguments were explosive like the 4th of July. They were real doozies! This, plus the way differences between my dad and uncles also turned into fights, and how other family … Continue reading Transforming Pain into Gain

Let Your Breath Catch You

In the face of discomfort, stress, disagreement, frustration, and such, one simple thing typically determines whether I say something stupid, hurtful, or defensive, versus loving, caring, and understanding. Breath. Pausing. Slowing. Then, feeling and enjoying a deep breath in through the nose--like I'm breathing a halo around my head--followed by a clearing sigh, takes me out … Continue reading Let Your Breath Catch You

Welcoming and Listening to Sadness

Welcome sadness, it will bless you. In the midst of a recent spin class on our Peloton, I broke down in tears. The instructor, Kendall Toole, invited us to welcome grief in, so I did. Soon enough, my waterworks began mixing with my sweat to form a healing “cocktail” on my face. What broke and blessed … Continue reading Welcoming and Listening to Sadness

Love is a Gateway Drug

Do you ever struggle with doing something you know you should, and even want to do? That was me when it came to being kind and compassionate, and caring well for others, until about 15 years ago. What changed me? Like drill sergeants of kindness, the people of Valley Bible Fellowship spoke, displayed, and invited … Continue reading Love is a Gateway Drug

The Little BIG Things Love Does

My friend Scott inspires me! While visiting said bestie in Colorado, as we were going into his house for the night, I saw Scott look back and linger to watch the garage door finish closing. Why? To make sure everything was safe and secure for his family. Love, I realized while observing him, does little things that … Continue reading The Little BIG Things Love Does

Mental Space Makes Room for Grace

Sometimes I’ll half-jokingly, with a straight face say, “I am Ironman.” Partly because after my nearly fatal hiking accident in 2008, the doctors had to use metal bits to put my head back together, and also because I’m a bit of a geek. 🙂 That said, I’d say in a real and powerful way: YOU are … Continue reading Mental Space Makes Room for Grace

Depth is Divine

You know how magic happens when you don’t expect it? One of the biggest “bummers” teaching yoga, can be when only 1 student comes to class (insert falsetto, “awkward”). Yet, consistently those are the most sacred moments students and I have! There’s a depth to our time together. We have a “moment” they’ll often fondly tell me … Continue reading Depth is Divine

Judgment is the Poison, and (Self)Love is the Cure

Is it just me, or is being judgmental pretty much hard-wired into our system? For much of my life, I've compared myself to others. When it came to things like grades, job titles, religious views, finances, political stances, smarts, marital health, physical fitness, and dietary choices, I was always looking to be better than others … Continue reading Judgment is the Poison, and (Self)Love is the Cure