I was lost, lonely, empty, and confused for a stretch of time during, and after my second divorce. I didn’t know why she’d picked that path, and couldn’t make sense of it. Reflecting deeply on my part and how I could learn and grow from it, though, was what brought me back to “life”, so … Continue reading Flourishing Through Life’s Hardships
I can't wait until ... things go back to normal, a vaccine comes, we can freely hug one another, our political and racial divides heal, I graduate, warmer weather comes, and the list goes on. What's on your "can't wait until" list? Mary Oliver said, "I don't want to end up simply having visited this world." As … Continue reading Being Great Full
When I make dinner I listen to music, while dancing and singing (loudly). In fact, not long ago I was especially into a song, and mid-chorus saw a lady walking by outside give me an "are you possessed?" look. Whether you can carry a tune or not, there's something powerful and healing about singing at the … Continue reading Sing at the Top of Your Lungs!
We watched "The Princess Bride" with my daughter the other day, and I was struck by the wisdom of a famous line from Westley to Buttercup: "Life is pain, highness. Anyone who tells you differently is selling something." When I avoid uncomfortable feelings inside me, awkward conversations with my wife, disagreeing with friends, and so on, I … Continue reading Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable
What do you and I do with suffering? There is SO MUCH hurt, fear, and pain in the world. Even when my family, friends, and I are doing great, watching the news, reading the headlines, and so on brings me face to face with sorrow. It's unavoidable. My bias is to ignore it, make a … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness
First the falling, then the rising. Over the past week a few people shared heartache, struggles, fears, and other painful stuff with me. Being wired for optimism, I wanted to quickly sugarcoat these hurts or move past them. Knowing this about myself, I've been practicing going INTO the pain instead of around it; taking time … Continue reading Meditation on Finding Peace & Wholeness by Diving Deep Into Our Hardships
LIFE IS HARD. I think we all realize this sooner or later with death, abuse, loss, unemployment, miscarriage, severe illness, addiction, and so on. On this topic, author and spiritual sage Richard Rohr observes: "The Buddha said again and again, 'I teach only suffering and the transformation of suffering.' As I often say: If you do not transform … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter