Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

We watched "The Princess Bride" with my daughter the other day, and I was struck by the wisdom of a famous line from Westley to Buttercup: "Life is pain, highness.  Anyone who tells you differently is selling something."  When I avoid uncomfortable feelings inside me, awkward conversations with my wife, disagreeing with friends, and so on, I … Continue reading Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

What do you and I do with suffering?  There is SO MUCH hurt, fear, and pain in the world.  Even when my family, friends, and I are doing great, watching the news, reading the headlines, and so on brings me face to face with sorrow.  It's unavoidable.  My bias is to ignore it, make a … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

Meditation on Finding Peace & Wholeness by Diving Deep Into Our Hardships

First the falling, then the rising.  Over the past week a few people shared heartache, struggles, fears, and other painful stuff with me.  Being wired for optimism, I wanted to quickly sugarcoat these hurts or move past them.  Knowing this about myself, I've been practicing going INTO the pain instead of around it; taking time … Continue reading Meditation on Finding Peace & Wholeness by Diving Deep Into Our Hardships

Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter

LIFE IS HARD.  I think we all realize this sooner or later with death, abuse, loss, unemployment, miscarriage, severe illness, addiction, and so on.  On this topic, author and spiritual sage Richard Rohr observes: "The Buddha said again and again, 'I teach only suffering and the transformation of suffering.'  As I often say: If you do not transform … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter