Grieving the Life I Lost

13 years ago today, the amazing life I had ended. In the blink of an eye, a quite successful career flying for the air force (where I also got to teach the best of the best) vanished, as did the future plans and dreams of my then fiancée (now ex-wife) and I. While life doesn’t … Continue reading Grieving the Life I Lost

Being Great Full

I can't wait until ... things go back to normal, a vaccine comes, we can freely hug one another, our political and racial divides heal, I graduate, warmer weather comes, and the list goes on. What's on your "can't wait until" list? Mary Oliver said, "I don't want to end up simply having visited this world." As … Continue reading Being Great Full

The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Our stories contain endless depths to explore and lessons to learn.  For instance, I just realized a powerful new life lesson from two of the worst moments in my life. I distinctly remember sitting on a plane 13 years ago and experiencing by far the worst turbulence I’ve ever felt (and I’ve flown several hundred … Continue reading The Gift of Grief (aka “Good Grief”): Let’s Talk About Death Part 3

Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

What do you and I do with suffering?  There is SO MUCH hurt, fear, and pain in the world.  Even when my family, friends, and I are doing great, watching the news, reading the headlines, and so on brings me face to face with sorrow.  It's unavoidable.  My bias is to ignore it, make a … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

Choosing Joy/Stubborn Gladness

Sorrow everywhere.  Slaughter everywhere.  If babies are not starving someplace, they are starving Somewhere else. With flies in their nostrils.   Thus begins Jack Gilbert’s hope-filled and realistic poem “A Brief for the Defense”.  The very next words continue by saying:   But we enjoy our lives because that’s what God wants. Otherwise the mornings before … Continue reading Choosing Joy/Stubborn Gladness