The Power of the Stories in Our Heads

Have you ever seen a message notification in passing, and created a whole storyline around it before actually reading it ... only to have none of what you imagined probable/possible turn out to be true? I got a FB message from a pastor friend about a shocking death 😮 with a link to an article about it. Since he'd never messaged me … Continue reading The Power of the Stories in Our Heads

Letting Go, to Let It Shine

We're in a somewhat stormy stretch of life. Yet, "somehow" I feel quite calm and beyond content with things. While, the stressors and struggles we're navigating aren't mine to share here—although, getting my doctorate is one—I will say it's not my first time through the "wringer". That said, when I went through my first divorce … Continue reading Letting Go, to Let It Shine

A Project of Love

Friends, I'm stoked to invite you to a Project of Love.  I'm working on a Doctorate in Leadership & Spiritual Formation, to help people thrive together in life. To make our doctoral projects as successful as possible (mine is about growing and flowing with Love across divides), we run several "tests" to get feedback from people … Continue reading A Project of Love

Our Deepest Truth

If I could say one thing to you, it’s this: YOU are Loved/Love. Now and forever, no matter what, you are deeply loved—more than words can express. And, when we peel away the mess and muck of life, I believe the deepest truth of each of us is love. We came from love, are made to … Continue reading Our Deepest Truth

Just the Way You Are

If your profile had a relationship status (with yourself), what would you put? For most of my life, it was “complicated”. While I was addicted to porn (1998-2008), for instance, part of me despised myself. Likewise, during the evolution of my first divorce, I just didn’t want to be me. Following my second divorce in 2013, … Continue reading Just the Way You Are

Love Actually …

I believe: Love actually … Is the fundamental nature of reality. Believes the best. Is our native tongue. Bridges divides. Is messy. Speaks life. Never ends. Is the flow of the universe. Leads. Does little things that make big differences. Includes … beyond what/who we’d prefer. Stretches us. Empowers. Gives. Receives. Is playful. Lifts up. … Continue reading Love Actually …

It’s All About Our “Spirit”

I feel blessed to still be riding the wave of 2 recent “mountaintop” experiences. While one was a rock-and-roll, soul-shining themed cruise, the other was the first in-person retreat for the doctoral program I’m in. Although the former featured lots of yogis, and the latter was for seminary students from all manner of Christian backgrounds, … Continue reading It’s All About Our “Spirit”

The Love Castle

I dig metaphors, and one that’s speaking to me lately is choosing to live in a Love Castle. It’s where our family’s life together is akin to a castle, one that only allows love in over its moat and through its gates. No love, no entry! To be clear, “love”, as I understand it, is the giving … Continue reading The Love Castle

Love First … and Ask Questions Later

I did a 9/11 Reflection ride on the Peloton the other day—and amidst the many tears—two lessons from that time, which speak to today’s hurt and polarization, came to me: BE WITH and BE IN. To be with is when, no matter one’s religion, race, politics, gender, sexuality, etc., we 100% have each other’s backs. To be in is … Continue reading Love First … and Ask Questions Later

Seeing Our Blind-spots

The other day, my literal blind-spots got me thinking about the "blind-spots" we all have. While Lisa and I were out enjoying a nice, long walk on a beautiful summer day with our dog Biscuits, I heard somebody outside my field of view say something about a "nice doggy". Lacking any peripheral vision from a … Continue reading Seeing Our Blind-spots