Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

Today is my 12th rebirth day; as on 11/10/08 I should have died after a nightmarish chain of events led to me plummeting 30 feet off a cliff, headfirst onto a boulder. While I'm always hesitant to share this, "don't be boastful" says a voice in my head, I decided to anyway. ūüôā Aside from "12" … Continue reading Celebrating Life: The 12th Anniversary of the Day I Should Have Died

Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

We watched "The Princess Bride" with my daughter the other day, and I was struck by the wisdom of a famous line from Westley to Buttercup:¬†"Life is pain, highness. ¬†Anyone who tells you¬†differently is selling something."¬† When I avoid uncomfortable feelings inside me, awkward conversations with my wife, disagreeing with friends, and so on, I … Continue reading Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

Suffering’s Gift

I believe we're in a sacred, powerful, and beautiful moment of collective transformation now. ¬†As tragic as the Coronavirus pandemic is, it's gift¬†can¬†be exponentially more beneficial. ¬†I say this sincerely and confidently because¬†each time I've walked the road of soul-shivering suffering, be it a divorce that shook my beliefs and world view, an accident that … Continue reading Suffering’s Gift

Faith, Hope, and Love for NO Reason

Cheers! Even though it's been nearly seven years and I'm incredibly happily remarried, I still sometimes feel DEEPLY hurt by and confused why my second wife left me. ¬†By the conventional wisdom that good deeds are rewarded and bad punished, we'd have stayed together. ¬†What's more, it's the same story if one went by my … Continue reading Faith, Hope, and Love for NO Reason

Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

What do you and I do with suffering? ¬†There is SO MUCH hurt, fear, and pain in the world. ¬†Even when my family, friends, and I are doing great, watching the news, reading the headlines, and so on brings me face to face with sorrow. ¬†It's unavoidable. ¬†My bias is to ignore it, make a … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

‚ÄúEmbrace the Suck‚ÄĚ: How Learning How to Smile at the Suffering in Life is Essential for Being Whole, Healthy, and Vibrantly Alive

In a world of tension and breakdown, it is necessary for there to be those who seek to integrate their inner-lives not by avoiding anguish and running away from problems, but by facing them in their naked reality in their ordinariness. - Thomas Merton   We had a saying in the Air Force that‚Äôs stuck … Continue reading ‚ÄúEmbrace the Suck‚ÄĚ: How Learning How to Smile at the Suffering in Life is Essential for Being Whole, Healthy, and Vibrantly Alive

Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter

LIFE IS HARD. ¬†I think we all realize this sooner or later with death, abuse, loss, unemployment, miscarriage, severe illness, addiction, and so on. ¬†On this topic, author and spiritual sage Richard Rohr observes: "The Buddha said again and again,¬†'I teach only suffering and the transformation of suffering.'¬†¬†As I often say:¬†If you do not transform … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter