Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

We watched "The Princess Bride" with my daughter the other day, and I was struck by the wisdom of a famous line from Westley to Buttercup: "Life is pain, highness.  Anyone who tells you differently is selling something."  When I avoid uncomfortable feelings inside me, awkward conversations with my wife, disagreeing with friends, and so on, I … Continue reading Growing More Awesome by Going Into the Awkward/Uncomfortable

Suffering’s Gift

I believe we're in a sacred, powerful, and beautiful moment of collective transformation now.  As tragic as the Coronavirus pandemic is, it's gift can be exponentially more beneficial.  I say this sincerely and confidently because each time I've walked the road of soul-shivering suffering, be it a divorce that shook my beliefs and world view, an accident that … Continue reading Suffering’s Gift

Faith, Hope, and Love for NO Reason

Cheers! Even though it's been nearly seven years and I'm incredibly happily remarried, I still sometimes feel DEEPLY hurt by and confused why my second wife left me.  By the conventional wisdom that good deeds are rewarded and bad punished, we'd have stayed together.  What's more, it's the same story if one went by my … Continue reading Faith, Hope, and Love for NO Reason

Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

What do you and I do with suffering?  There is SO MUCH hurt, fear, and pain in the world.  Even when my family, friends, and I are doing great, watching the news, reading the headlines, and so on brings me face to face with sorrow.  It's unavoidable.  My bias is to ignore it, make a … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Suffering Into Sweetness

“Embrace the Suck”: How Learning How to Smile at the Suffering in Life is Essential for Being Whole, Healthy, and Vibrantly Alive

In a world of tension and breakdown, it is necessary for there to be those who seek to integrate their inner-lives not by avoiding anguish and running away from problems, but by facing them in their naked reality in their ordinariness. - Thomas Merton   We had a saying in the Air Force that’s stuck … Continue reading “Embrace the Suck”: How Learning How to Smile at the Suffering in Life is Essential for Being Whole, Healthy, and Vibrantly Alive

Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter

LIFE IS HARD.  I think we all realize this sooner or later with death, abuse, loss, unemployment, miscarriage, severe illness, addiction, and so on.  On this topic, author and spiritual sage Richard Rohr observes: "The Buddha said again and again, 'I teach only suffering and the transformation of suffering.'  As I often say: If you do not transform … Continue reading Meditation on Transforming Our Suffering: Becoming Better Instead of Bitter