"I wish I had a relationship like that." In our nearly 5 years together, people have said some form of that to Lisa and I more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. While I don't believe in formulas when it comes to relationships, I would also say: Trust the goodness. Trusting a partner, … Continue reading Trust the Goodness
What would the world look like if we switched from finger-pointing and fighting to forgiving? What would change in your life? Honestly, many of the most debilitating and painful moments in my life came when I didn’t forgive someone (or myself), or when I authentically asked for, yet didn’t receive it. Desmond Tutu titled a book No … Continue reading From Finger-Pointing and Fighting to Forgiving
One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go
With a wink and a smile, I offer this: Life is like kayaking, enjoy the journey. Why? Glad you asked! 😉 On a glorious spring morning, my wife and I paddled out onto the Hood Canal. As the sun smiled on us, we could see the Olympic mountains peering down on mirrorlike waters. With peace hanging in … Continue reading Life is Like Kayaking, Enjoy the Journey
I've been feeling unusually stressed lately. In exploring "why", two root causes revealed themselves. With several literal stacks of books to read for my doctorate project, looming papers to write, trying/struggling to teach more yoga, wanting to plan in-person events for my book (once we're allowed again), and more, future tripping is a prime culprit. When … Continue reading Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love
I feel SO blessed to be in a wonderful circle of friends who are family, and family who are friends! In reflecting on what makes them so amazing, the word that came to me is “Grace”. Grace is a gift, free of charge, that loves and celebrates you just as you are. Its typically tender hands … Continue reading An Ode/Invitation to Grace
How do we measure success? How do we find it? Are those different? For instance, it's been 7+ months since my memoir, Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community, came out. Thus far, we've made ~3% of what we spent to self-publish it back. That's a big financial failure by any measuring stick! YET, what … Continue reading Balance Brings Bliss
Have you ever had something you couldn’t let go of? Or were terrified of what it would mean to not _____? Even when it wasn’t joyful, life-giving, or loving? Maybe even limiting, unhealthy, or hurtful? I have been a runner my whole adult life. As in from 1998-2020, I likely averaged 50 miles a week. … Continue reading “Running” From Our Sweetest Selves
I take our dog Biscuits out about 20 times a week, which is fine by me as I use the time to both enjoy fresh air and play Words with Friends. The other day though, a voice whispered, "don't play. Just be." So, with the cold wind blowing and rain falling steadily, that's what I … Continue reading Awe Makes Awesome
When it comes to healing, growing, and becoming more alive/loving, I love metaphors. Lately I’ve been mulling this one over: Don’t be broken glass, be a disco ball! When we get hurt or fail, that bit of us is like the shards of a broken window, sharp and painful. And, until we do the work of healing … Continue reading Sparkling Like a Disco Ball
