Love resides in the pause. What I mean by that is while my first words, or reaction, to something I disagree with, don't like, or feel pressure or opposition from are generally not helpful or are unkind: Pausing, breathing, and giving my thoughts time to settle, creates space for love to move in. Can you relate? In many … Continue reading The Power of the Pause
What would the world look like if we switched from finger-pointing and fighting to forgiving? What would change in your life? Honestly, many of the most debilitating and painful moments in my life came when I didn’t forgive someone (or myself), or when I authentically asked for, yet didn’t receive it. Desmond Tutu titled a book No … Continue reading From Finger-Pointing and Fighting to Forgiving
One of the hardest and most rewarding things to do in life is to let go. Like parents often do, I had notions of who and how my daughter would be ... yet, to hold Lara to my vision for her, is to limit the rainbow splendor of creative possibilities that is this magical 16-year-old. … Continue reading The Practice of Letting Go
I've been feeling unusually stressed lately. In exploring "why", two root causes revealed themselves. With several literal stacks of books to read for my doctorate project, looming papers to write, trying/struggling to teach more yoga, wanting to plan in-person events for my book (once we're allowed again), and more, future tripping is a prime culprit. When … Continue reading Being Here, Now, with Hearts Full of Love
How do we measure success? How do we find it? Are those different? For instance, it's been 7+ months since my memoir, Falling into Love: The Transformative Power of Community, came out. Thus far, we've made ~3% of what we spent to self-publish it back. That's a big financial failure by any measuring stick! YET, what … Continue reading Balance Brings Bliss
Have you ever had something you couldn’t let go of? Or were terrified of what it would mean to not _____? Even when it wasn’t joyful, life-giving, or loving? Maybe even limiting, unhealthy, or hurtful? I have been a runner my whole adult life. As in from 1998-2020, I likely averaged 50 miles a week. … Continue reading “Running” From Our Sweetest Selves
I take our dog Biscuits out about 20 times a week, which is fine by me as I use the time to both enjoy fresh air and play Words with Friends. The other day though, a voice whispered, "don't play. Just be." So, with the cold wind blowing and rain falling steadily, that's what I … Continue reading Awe Makes Awesome
When it comes to healing, growing, and becoming more alive/loving, I love metaphors. Lately I’ve been mulling this one over: Don’t be broken glass, be a disco ball! When we get hurt or fail, that bit of us is like the shards of a broken window, sharp and painful. And, until we do the work of healing … Continue reading Sparkling Like a Disco Ball
One of the hardest, most healing, and helpful lessons I’m learning in life is to trust and love my body. The truth is: Our bodies are brilliant. Your body is brilliant. My body is brilliant. Our bodies not only know what’s best for them, they harbor intelligence our brains lack that will bless our lives! As much as I’ve … Continue reading Our Bodies are Brilliant!
My wife was sharing her feelings with me the other day, when out of fear, instead of holding space for her, I shut her down. You see, part of me is afraid the messy, not so pleasant emotions will overwhelm me. Yet, I'm increasingly coming to find the healthiest thing to do is to feel, honor, … Continue reading Be Emotional!